I am not often annoyed by people, but what I really can't stand is antisocial behavior, which in my belief means as much as no consideration for other people. Imagine a quiet, green, spacious, neat residential neighborhood, among which one house stands out because of the clutter in the front yard and bicycles parked so lopsidedly that passing cars have trouble passing those bikes without causing damage. That annoys me.
Now imagine yourself on a beautiful, summer Sunday afternoon. The residents of that same residential neighborhood are sitting outside in their backyards enjoying a good book, the sun on their heads and the twittering birds, until suddenly, from the same conspicuous house, blaring music, loud shouting and the boisterous sound of a souped-up moped disrupts the peace, turning the beautiful, compelling story from the book acutely into a horror story. This story may work on your chuckles, but for me it is the painful reality. And what is it really about? Because the situation is as it is, but my reaction to how it is makes the situation unbearable.
Who decides how another person should live? Who coined the term antisocial and from what views? Who determines what is proper and what is not proper?
A long time ago I read a very interesting book: Spiegelogie, written by Willem de Ridder. Which is based on the idea that the whole world and what you witness and experience is a mirror for how you see or feel about yourself. The traits I admire in another are probably the traits I also prize in myself, or that I aspire for myself. The tendencies in another that irritate me greatly most likely trigger the tendencies I have hidden in myself; that I don't want to see, because of some limiting belief I have about them. Perhaps it concerns a character trait that brought me negative attention as a child, so I decided on the spot not to show that part of myself to the outside world anymore.
If you can acknowledge that the world is, as you see it. That your perception is shaped by your reality. And that your reality is formed by how you think about things, depending on your experiences, emotions and beliefs, you can use the world as a mirror for yourself. If you dare to look straight into that mirror and see what that mirror wants to tell you (what your opinion of others says about you) a world will open up for you.
Welcome to your new truth.
Best wishes, Wanda
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